Your job is just to do your work, do it well, and let it be. I don't need no ryan.Anyone had the chance to read this one? Where most people would stay home because it’s raining, or go out for pints instead of making chances to the rough draft of their manuscript again, those who are successful and accomplish things do so by delaying the gratification of validation from others, and getting it later when they’ve actually accomplished something.Whenever you embark on a new journey, ask yourself: are you doing it to be somebody, or are you doing it to do something? Ego is the thing in our head that wants to be recognized by others. In other words, do you only want to do something for recognition and validation, or do you actually want to make the world a better place?Impressing people is vastly different from being impressive.Once we’ve made it to the top, or have it in our sites, and have people giving us props as big successes that made it, it’s easy for us to start thinking, oh right, I’m the greatest, I’m a God, and stop doing what we were doing to make it this far to begin with.As we succeed more and more in the world, it’s easy for us to feel that we are special. As one professor told me years ago: "Everyone has an opinion, but not all opinions are created equal". You read Obstacle is the Way?I've listened to both audio books (Ego & The Obstacle) versions twice. Not at all. Do it for your own reasons. Malcolm X instead transformed his prison sentence into alive time and he used it to become an absorber of knowledge. Reddit gives you the best of the internet in one place. Ego really might be the enemy and it leads to too many fucks given. The same goes for destroying our ego.
Malcolm X turned what could have been a chance to become a more hardened criminal into time that helped him become one of the most influential African Americans in history.As the Bhagavad Gita states, you have a right to your actions, not to the fruits of your actions.
I still have a chuckle at the fact I'm listening saying "I get this!" If he did, you would never have heard of him. You have to accept it in that you really have to take criticism and think about it - even when you think it's crap, you should take some time to determine whether you can derive anything useful out of it. Why shouldn't we celebrate ourselves and what we're good at? I've noticed that usually the people who call you out for having an "ego" are generally insecureI haven't read the book, but it seems like it's your ego talkin, holding on, or clinging to your ego.New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be castPress J to jump to the feed. Do I think I'm too good for this administration? Haven't done that with a book in a very long time.Good summary, read the written version, didn't read the book.Glad you got value out of it! It's a book I took notes on and will revisit from time to time, but two things stuck out to me that I didn't fully agree withFirst one has to do with accepting criticism. I think it's safe to ignore "criticisms" from people like that. Go on Facebook and tell everyone about it.What getting props and support for setting out to do something before we even do it does is it gives your mind that little treat of validation it needs to not do anything. This is a fight we need to have every day. As long as we don’t become too inflated to see them. u/Motorvision.
The ego is definitely capable of creating misery, I think.Furthermore, I think a distinction could be made between today's pejorative context of ego, and "healthy" ego. You can’t attack it once and then be done forever. We do need an ego but the problem isn't that we have not enough ego, it's always that we have too much.New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be castWe are a community committed to learning about and applying Stoic principles and techniques.Press J to jump to the feed.
He doesn't address this in the book though, learning to discern whose criticism to trust, and whose to safely ignoreThe other disagreement I had with the book is when he said to never think you're too good for something (like a job, for instance). Ego Is The Enemy, by Ryan Holiday No matter where you are in life, or where you aspire to be, you’ll find yourself facing a common enemy every step of the way. Would love to hear other users' takes on it. You need to take efforts every day to eliminate it.The book is split into three parts, Aspiration, Success, and Failure, with lessons from historical figures and cautionary tales in each part.Here’s some of the top lessons I got from each part:When we decide to go on a new diet, what’s the first thing we do?
What are your thoughts on it?I love this and his previous book "The Obstacle Is The Way", which is what introduced me to the works of Marcus Aurelius and Seneca.Edit: I think I like Obstacle Is The Way the best out of his books.I personally found thus book quite disappointing.
Needless to say I told the principal this wasn't working out. Your ego.Your ego is the voice in the back of your head that says “don’t worry about working hard, that’s for those other guys who aren’t as talented” if you’re on top it’s the voice that tells you you’re better than everyone else, and if you’ve failed it’s the voice that tells you you’re worthless and can’t recover and no one has ever been worse than you.We all have ego in a sense, and we need to continuously try and “sweep the floor” with it. Since I was new to the district, I got assigned a "mentor" at my building (many districts do this). Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcutsCookies help us deliver our Services. Along as are still working as hard as you can at your job and making the best of it. Stop telling people we’re going to do something, realize if anything is going to get done, you need to do it, sit down, shut up, and do your work.Falling in with this point is the chapter of Work Work Work. You cannot eliminate it permanently. It just made me look at problems in life in a very different perspective. Am I too good for my students? and many others would probably say that it's bullshit and you "need" ego to "succeed" in life.Ehh both can be right. Ego blinds inflates our sense of worth and blinds us to reality 2. But reading your post -I agree that not all criticism is valid, and not all criticism is helpful.
Why shouldn't we should be discerning and hold standards for ourselves?